Are You Feeling Lost
You’re Not Alone
Many women question their inner-strength, their self-esteem and there self-worth. There are times we get lost in our own world. I believe we all get lost and when we are lost it is very scary. We are not really sure how we ended up at this point and we don’t know how to fix it. There are times we feel shame, sadness, and disappointment in ourselves. Sometimes we wonder what our purpose is. We know something’s not right, but we don’t know what it is. There is something missing, but what could it be.
We have all heard the buzz about “finding yourself”, “soul searching” and “self-discovery”. We read about the need to “go within” and “discover” who we are and what we want, but how do we do that? How do we get to know ourselves?
Who Are You
Like any other relationship, you have to learn to get to know who you are. Spend time by yourself, figure out what you like and don’t like. Get to know the girl inside you. It takes time and it takes effort. But what you will discover is that the most important relationship you will ever have, is the one you have with yourself!
I just read a quote that Reese Witherspoon tweeted and it explains our journey so well.
“We expect women to work like they don’t have children, and raise children as if they don’t work.”
Isn’t that the beginning of losing ourselves? Why do we just keep giving and trying to satisfy the needs of everyone else? All the while, we are not filling our own needs. Instead, we consume ourselves with being perfect at everything for everyone and drift further and further away. It’s no wonder there comes a day when we realize we have no idea who we are. We have completely lost our own identity. This is such a sad time. It is very lonely, it is depressing and very scary. But let’s put the blame where it belongs…you put yourself there. You allowed this to happen. The good news . . . you are the only one who can fix it. Let’s shift the idea of being everything for everyone and be everything for ourselves.When we fix who we are, we fix everything around us. The important thing to know, is that you can’t do it the other way around, fixing everything around you will not fix you. It’s like a microwave… you heat up the inside and then the outside receives the benefit.
It’s pretty funny that I have struggled to come up with the perfect ” first blog” for so long and because of that, I have not started one at all. As a writer, you would think that task would have been an easy one for me. But I spent so much time deciding what the perfect introduction would be. How can I say the perfect opening statement. What would capture the essence of “Power Within Her” in a way that would sum up the meaning of what it stands for?
Resolutions . . .
The morning of New Year’s Day I realized there couldn’t be a better time to start my first blog because New Year’s Day is a time for new beginnings. It is a time to look back and see what we have accomplished and/or failed to accomplish. It is a clean slate to start doing, planning and being all the things we put off since last year. Or, if you’re anything like me, things you’ve put off for the past 10 years. New Years is a time to work on our weaknesses and build on our strengths. So I have made this my resolution; to put away procrastination and the need to get everything perfect. That is what holds me back. I fear it won’t be good enough, inspiring enough or relatable. My resolution is simple. It is to listen to my heart. To do what I love. I love to write, I love to share and to help others discover what I have discovered; the strength and the amazingness that is inside every one of us.
What’s on your back burner?
Time goes by so fast and there is so much going on in our lives that we tend to put our own wants and needs on the back burning while we make sure everyone else in our life has everything they need and want. The days, weeks, months and years pass by so quickly, we barely have time to change the calendar. Next thing you know, here comes another New Year’s Day and we are no closer to our new year’s resolutions than we were a year ago. I have followed this pattern for years and have only recently discovered how to change the cycle of doing, fixing, giving and lacking. I felt I was always thinking… What about ME??? I have taken me off the back burner. I have taken me off the bottom of the “ToDo” list. I have give me priority in my life. Why? Because I deserve it! And you do too.
It’s all about you.
I have started this blog with the title “Happy YOU Year” because this year is about You. This blog is about YOU. It is about discovering who you are, what you want and how you can have it all. Together, we will share tools and idea that will help you uncover the amazing person that is living inside of you. This blog is about becoming the best version of you. We all struggle with feeling lost, unfulfilled, frustrated, lonely and sometimes depressed. There are so many emotions running around inside us and we are so busy managing our lives that we don’t have time to address them. As the months turn into years, we wake up one day and wonder, “What the hell happened? This is not the life that I thought I would be living.”
It’s time to take control and what better time to do it than New Year’s Day, the time for new beginnings. It’s time to stop feeling lonely in a house full of people and rediscover YOU. Bring You back to life. What do you want your life to look like on December 31, 2020.