Are You Feeling Lost
You’re Not Alone
Many women question their inner-strength, their self-esteem and there self-worth. There are times we get lost in our own world. I believe we all get lost and when we are lost it is very scary. We are not really sure how we ended up at this point and we don’t know how to fix it. There are times we feel shame, sadness, and disappointment in ourselves. Sometimes we wonder what our purpose is. We know something’s not right, but we don’t know what it is. There is something missing, but what could it be.
We have all heard the buzz about “finding yourself”, “soul searching” and “self-discovery”. We read about the need to “go within” and “discover” who we are and what we want, but how do we do that? How do we get to know ourselves?
Who Are You
Like any other relationship, you have to learn to get to know who you are. Spend time by yourself, figure out what you like and don’t like. Get to know the girl inside you. It takes time and it takes effort. But what you will discover is that the most important relationship you will ever have, is the one you have with yourself!
I read a quote that Reese Witherspoon tweeted and it explains our journey so well…
“We expect women to work like they don’t have children, and raise children as if they don’t work.”
Isn’t that the beginning of losing ourselves? Why do we just keep giving and trying to satisfy the needs of everyone else? All the while, we are not filling our own needs. Instead, we consume ourselves with being perfect at everything for everyone and drift further and further away. It’s no wonder there comes a day when we realize we have no idea who we are. We have completely lost our own identity. This is such a sad time. It is very lonely, it is depressing and very scary. But let’s put the blame where it belongs…we put ourselves there. We allow this to happen. It seems easier to just let life take its course and keep plowing our way through the day, the week and before we know it, the year.
The good news . . . we are the only ones who can fix it. Let’s shift the idea of being everything for everyone and be everything for ourselves. Let’s start taking time for the most important person in our lives… we are! It’s time to put us at the top of the list.
“If you don’t become selfish, you become self-less!”
When we fix who we are, we fix everything around us. The important thing to know, is that you can’t do it the other way around, fixing everything around you will not fix you. It’s like a microwave… you heat up the inside and then the outside receives the benefits.