Fear

Fear is something that every one faces, so I’d like to share a story with you that may help you accept it.  I found this entry in my journal.  It’s not dated but I know exactly when I wrote it. It was six months ago and I remember the fear like it was yesterday.

Rawness of Fear

What better time to write about fear than when I am smack dab in the middle of it? My vision is blurred because I can’t see without my contacts or glasses.  Not really, it’s because I have ointment in my eyes. I am two days out of a surgery that should have been a couple stitches and a small skin graph. Instead, I can’t see, I’m in pain and the right side of my face is swollen with god knows how many stitches; from my eye to the bottom of my nose. The worst-case scenario they gave me four weeks ago is my reality right now.

Gratitude

My family was here for me with hugs, flowers and meals. I am so lucky to have them. The surgeon did an amazing job. But still, tears creep in every now and then for whatever reason. I’m exhausted by the end of the day so I start getting ready for bed. I take the pain medicine I was so reluctant to fill, heat up the heating pads my sister gave me to relax the tension in my neck and prepare an icepack that will numb the pulling of my stitches. I reach for my phone one last time before going to sleep. My sister-in-law writes, “How was your day Patti?” I begin to cry again and answer, “It was a rollercoaster, but tomorrow will be better.” I lay down with all my tools of comfort and cry. Why? I don’t know. I can’t stop, I just cry. Trying to be positive, I rationalize; they took out the cancer and did such a great job on my face, my family is so amazing and supportive. I should be grateful, but I am sad. I’m scared and I can’t stop the tears.

The Unknown

I’m scared. Not knowing what tomorrow will bring is lets my mind run wild. Fear… the unknown. How do you trust what’s ahead? I flashback to my doctor giving me the prescription. He said, “It’s better to have it just in case you need it”. I said, “I’m fine” and he said, “you’re not right now”. I snapped back, “I’m just crying… there’s nothing wrong with crying.” I don’t know if I was trying to convince him or me.

Fear Brings Courage

Now I realize I was right. It’s okay to cry, to be scared and to fear what is ahead. We fear change of something that we don’t know, until we do know it. Everyone is faced with fear. It’s a  “normal” reaction in times of heart break, loss and the unknown. It’s okay to cry. Go ahead and  release the stress of it. Tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow will be better. There’s nothing wrong with you … you’re normal and every moment of fear you take a step toward courage. These are the moments you develop strength, resilience and hope. Let it happen.

A Shout Out to Every Woman

Women’s Day

The celebration of Women starts with celebrating every single woman across the world. We celebrate her strength, her resilience and her beauty. She is amazing because of who she is and what she does. It’s not about getting even, putting blame or revenge on anyone. There is no comparison. We don’t have to resurrect the past to prove anything. It’s about the progress, strength and courage that has evolved within us and made us the powerhouses that we are. We did the work and we stand tall and proud of what we have achieved.

We Make It Happen

There is nothing to prove here. It is about how we view ourselves. Because we believed in who we are and worked to make ourselves strong, we have grown and we have learned to overcome, concur and shine on the other side of our challenges. Nobody can take credit for what we have built inside.  We made it happen. This entire journey of life is a growing experience. We evolve every day and become a better version of ourselves. We have made incredible strides and we will continue to accomplish great things.

The Grounding Force

Women are the nucleus of relationships, grounding of homes and the heart of the families. We teach, protect, direct and nurture. This is just what we do and we make it look so easy.

Today may be the day we celebrate our victories with the world and with each other. But everyday is a celebration of who we are!

You are Brave! ~ You are Strong! ~ You are Amazing!

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The Summary of 2020

A Year of Challenges

We can all agree that 2020 has been a very challenging year and we have learned to adjust our lives in so many ways. Whether our job, finances, family life or self-esteem has been effected, each one of us has been forced to step back and look at how these times and events  have changed us and changed the way we live. To add to these challenges, the regular turns of life are also piling up and forcing us to make decisions we may not want to make. There’s so much to do and to figure out, that we start feeling overwhelmed, stressed, confused and frustrated because we don’t know where to begin.

New Year’s Resolutions

Now, we are approaching the end of the year. What that means, our  New Year’s Resolutions are here and boy are they plentiful. How can we choose a resolution when there is so much we would like to change? For the most part, history shows that these resolutions turn out to be more like wish lists. We make a decision to change our bodies, our futures and our relationships and this “new” resolution does what it did the year before. It works for the first week or if we are lucky, for the next two weeks.

Here’s the Problem

As we take this  time to reflect on what went right, wrong and what  needs to be changed to come up with our New Year’s Resolution for 2021, we create a list that looks more like a “to do list”.  We go into the new year with an idea but no plan to reach these goals. We are merely make a wish and then get down on ourselves for not following through with our goal.

Make a Plan

So what do we do to actually reach our resolution instead of beating ourselves up for not doing what we told ourselves and everyone else about how we were going to change? The way to stick to a resolution or goal is to make a plan. Create a step by step strategy on HOW you will attain that goal. Schedule the time for it and most importantly decide why this goal is so important to you. Your goal has to mean something to you and be written down for you to have a commitment to yourself. To accomplish what you throw out there as your New Year’s Resolution, you have got to be serious about it. So get to work now and be ready for the time when you  turn the page on 2020 and make your next year count.

2021

Is the Beginning of the Happy “YOU” Year

Get serious about what your goals are and create a plan to actually accomplish them. Starting on Monday mornings, January 4th and Wednesday evenings, January 6th, Power Within Her is offering 4 week Goal Setting Workshops via Zoom, where you will create goals around your intentions and then develop a plan to reach them.

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