Fear is something that every one faces, so I’d like to share a story with you that may help you accept it. I found this entry in my journal. It’s not dated but I know exactly when I wrote it. It was six months ago and I remember the fear like it was yesterday.
Rawness of Fear
What better time to write about fear than when I am smack dab in the middle of it? My vision is blurred because I can’t see without my contacts or glasses. Not really, it’s because I have ointment in my eyes. I am two days out of a surgery that should have been a couple stitches and a small skin graph. Instead, I can’t see, I’m in pain and the right side of my face is swollen with god knows how many stitches; from my eye to the bottom of my nose. The worst-case scenario they gave me four weeks ago is my reality right now.
My family was here for me with hugs, flowers and meals. I am so lucky to have them. The surgeon did an amazing job. But still, tears creep in every now and then for whatever reason. I’m exhausted by the end of the day so I start getting ready for bed. I take the pain medicine I was so reluctant to fill, heat up the heating pads my sister gave me to relax the tension in my neck and prepare an icepack that will numb the pulling of my stitches. I reach for my phone one last time before going to sleep. My sister-in-law writes, “How was your day Patti?” I begin to cry again and answer, “It was a rollercoaster, but tomorrow will be better.” I lay down with all my tools of comfort and cry. Why? I don’t know. I can’t stop, I just cry. Trying to be positive, I rationalize; they took out the cancer and did such a great job on my face, my family is so amazing and supportive. I should be grateful, but I am sad. I’m scared and I can’t stop the tears.
I’m scared. Not knowing what tomorrow will bring is lets my mind run wild. Fear… the unknown. How do you trust what’s ahead? I flashback to my doctor giving me the prescription. He said, “It’s better to have it just in case you need it”. I said, “I’m fine” and he said, “you’re not right now”. I snapped back, “I’m just crying… there’s nothing wrong with crying.” I don’t know if I was trying to convince him or me.
Fear Brings Courage
Now I realize I was right. It’s okay to cry, to be scared and to fear what is ahead. We fear change of something that we don’t know, until we do know it. Everyone is faced with fear. It’s a “normal” reaction in times of heart break, loss and the unknown. It’s okay to cry. Go ahead and release the stress of it. Tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow will be better. There’s nothing wrong with you … you’re normal and every moment of fear you take a step toward courage. These are the moments you develop strength, resilience and hope. Let it happen.
The celebration of Women starts with celebrating every single woman across the world. We celebrate her strength, her resilience and her beauty. She is amazing because of who she is and what she does. It’s not about getting even, putting blame or revenge on anyone. There is no comparison. We don’t have to resurrect the past to prove anything. It’s about the progress, strength and courage that has evolved within us and made us the powerhouses that we are. We did the work and we stand tall and proud of what we have achieved.
We Make It Happen
There is nothing to prove here. It is about how we view ourselves. Because we believed in who we are and worked to make ourselves strong, we have grown and we have learned to overcome, concur and shine on the other side of our challenges. Nobody can take credit for what we have built inside. We made it happen. This entire journey of life is a growing experience. We evolve every day and become a better version of ourselves. We have made incredible strides and we will continue to accomplish great things.
The Grounding Force
Women are the nucleus of relationships, grounding of homes and the heart of the families. We teach, protect, direct and nurture. This is just what we do and we make it look so easy.
Today may be the day we celebrate our victories with the world and with each other. But everyday is a celebration of who we are!
You are Brave! ~ You are Strong! ~ You are Amazing!
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Happy “YOU” Year
As we begin our journey of making 2021 our Happy “YOU” Year, it’s important to ask ourselves the right questions so we can be clear about what it is we are creating on this clean slate. We stand here with a blank canvas that is waiting for us to decide what 2021 will hold for us. Where will we be a year from right now?
Now is the Time
That can be an overwhelming question because most of us are so out of touch with who we are, that we have no idea what we want. Even more troubling is that many women answer that question with what someone else believes we are. We spend so much time listening to what others say and think that we don’t do it for ourselves. We’ve lost who we are. That is why now is the perfect time to unravel all of the answers that are within us. The best way to understand who we are and what we truly want is to ask questions. If we ask the right questions, we can restore the heart and build strength and confidence as we develop the will to uncover our true selves. Explore questions that dig into your souls, into your heart and into our dreams.
If you could live the life of your dreams, what would that look like? Where would you be? What would be around you? Who would be with you. If there were no restrictions and you could be, do and have anything you desired, what would it be? When you ask your heart these questions, listen. Don’t be in a hurry to answer them. Wait and then ask them again. Let your imagination and your heart explore your covered up dreams. You will know when it is time to write these things down. You will know when you have the vision of what your year can look like.
You can also ask your own questions. As one question is asked another may pop up. Go with it and explore your heart. This is not a script. It is creative, it is exploration and it is the rebuilding of your true self. When you come up with answer, ask yourself “why”. Why is this important to you? What will it bring you? How will it make you feel? What will it mean? Just keep exploring. This is the process of reaching your authentic self.
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